The following views are just some thoughts invoke by some situation i've came across for the past few weeks. Dun ask me what's has happened or what is happening, just some thoughts... =)

I detest/bu si huan/loathe pple who judges others by their cover/behaviour at a certain point in time. Who has the right to say that one is unlady like/ungentlemanly like/vulgar(whatever vocab u can find to describe actions not fitting into common practises, one's values/perception, scenes from movies.. whatever...) when he/she/they doesn't even try to understand the situation?

Guess it's easy to misunderstand other's intention in acting out the way they do at some point in time. Be it to clarify things, to argue for a cause, to fight for equality, to try to slack, to seek opinions...etc

Arguments/complains/fights normally happen when different parties see different viewpoints to the issue. I believe that it's unfair for the other party when one side comes to any conclusion for the argument just by his/her/their own perception.(ie, i think the other person is trying to slack, i think he/she is very demanding/unreasonable, i think..)... Hey, what u 'think' might not be what he/she/they is/are trying to convey most of the time. It just shows the lack of EQ on ones' part. Why not open one's mouth to ask,"May i know what are u/u all are trying to convey?" or maybe a simple "Can u elaborate further what are u trying to say or do?" Isn't this an easier way to clarify or make things clearer before any personal comments or decisions are made?

It's very human to make personal judgement on many matters. I do so in one way or another many times. Well, bet it's unfair to the other party/parties concern and to myself too. Cos i didn't even give myself or them a chance to understand what actually going on.

So i have been reminding myself to be more self aware of certain conflicts and do take a step back n try to see what's is actually happening...hmmm.... ya, i have been trying to.. haha..